Saturday, June 22, 2013

The quest for happiness - life according to the Dalai Lama

Here are some notes from the Dalai Lama's 'Quest for happiness', Adelaide public talk 21 June 2013 - transcribed from the e-ticket, as I forgot to take a notebook.

Mentally, physically and emotionally we are all the same.

  • We should have respect for others, developed out of inner strength and moral principle (right intention). From respect comes non violence. 
  • You must develop a sense of others' wellbeing at the mental and emotional level. Harmful actions come from a self-centred attitude. 
  • Practice tolerance, forgiveness and love. Every experience comes from previous actions.
  • Create a compassionate heart. 
  • Constantly check your sincerity and truthfulness (positive anxiety as Lama Choedak says).

Relating to others

  • Friendship comes from trust - there is no friendship if there is fear. Biologically we need affection and care.
  • It is very important to be warm hearted - a deeper human value.
  • Strong self + compassion = good (need inner values)
  • Peace of mind comes from the heart - an open and relaxed mind. 
  • Heart first, then mind.
  • When talking to people, feel that we are all the same.

Approach to life

  • Develop single-pointed faith. 
  • Look at your problems from a wider perspective - holistically. This reduces anxiety.
  • Work in this life is a gift to your next life.
  • Learn affection and love - through actions and attitude.
  • Forgive yourself - realise more, demoralise past mistakes, make a pledge to be a new person. Practice forgiveness to heal yourself - see others in the 'image of god'.
  • Analyse tragedies - overcome them if you can, if not don't worry about it or the problem will increase.
  • Think that you will not in future do actions that have caused you and/or others suffering.
  • Negative thoughts - emotions disturb you if your thinking is weak. Make your thoughts more equanimous and remind yourself that we are all the same...
  • Happiness means more satisfaction - you are 'full' or 'complete'.

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